Whats a girl to do?
So..I dont know aboiut you guys but this week has been insane for me..I was studyin 24/7 adn when i wasnt i was feeling guilty and the same goes for the enxt week and a day till my semester is finally over and i can take a break from that G-d forsaken place AKA gSU campus. so as i sit here with my chemistry notes in front of me and i tell myself that eventually I will get through this...im stalling for time cuz Im tryin to figure out what im talking about.
this week is parshas tazria metzorah and we all know the basics "dont speak Lashon hara its a terrible thing to do instead make people happy and love every single jew(or married as the case may be as we get older)" we all know the songs we know the basic mussar shmuess dont speak badly abt people Hashem doesnt like it, no one likes it, you may feel good saying it that insant cuz you feel like there is nothing you'd rather say but the second later when it hits you, your shocked - what- how'd that happen- how'di let myself go there- thats not right....
we all know the post-LH guilt. but something that seems to escape most of our minds is the concept that its more than the big things, its the slight jokes we make at someone els'es expense or pointing out that a little kid is annoying or whatever it may be..sometimes and most of the time its the small things taht we have to watch out for, its the small things that make or break a person. its that one small concept that you forgot to study that ends up making you do not so well on the test(we've all been there)
and sometimes it the small gestures that we do for people that tells them that yoiu really care. I remember in seminary and even in moreshet Mrs. Blau would be very makpid on taking attendance cuz she said that some people go the whole day without anyone saying her name so this way at least people have their name called and even in the slightest way makes them feel special. we never know what our actions do, who they affect. and sometimes we have to go out of our way to makes things right with the people we love and care abouit
we've all gotten into arguments with our parents- some more than others- but still we all have been there some time or another. and there have definately have been times when you knew without a shadow of a doubt that yoiu are right and they are wrong. and i mean sometimes its righteous indignation- you were doing what youi thought-knew- was right and then they want you to do it differently. they want you to do something that you know yoy cannot do. they think you did something that you know with absolute clarity that it did not happen the way they think it did. so then you argue, you yell it out, hopefully not too much yelling you wanna keep those windows intact. then you go to your room, sulk a little maybe, if your like me in a bad mood i blast the music what ever it takes till you calm down.
now what? the furthest thing in your mind is to apologise, you are right it wouldnt be fair for yoiu to go crawling back begging for forgiveness. but that is the way it has to be. you dont have to apologize for having an opnoin youi dont have to apologize for what you didnt do, but yoiu do have to apologise for the yelling. bcz in the end they are yoiur parents and they love you and everythin they do is for you and your benefit they never wanna hurt you. they live their lives so you can live a better one. so yea you may disagree on what is best for you..but remember that they do want the best for you their daughter... apologising may seem so big in the moment but really in the grand scheme of things its two simple words-im sorry- three if you dont like contraction- its such a small gesture that can make the difference btwn peace in the home or WWIII
right now its sefira and we are all working on making oursleves fitting to recieve the torah.we are using these 49 days Hashem gave us to better ourselves so that on Shavuous night we will be able to say "Naaseh V'Nishma" with a full heart and a steady consious knowing that this is right and this is the only path to even conisder. so remember as you are studying and your sister asks a BILLION TIMES if you can do something for her..just keep in mind that college is important yes but what good is a Ba without a future in Olam Haba?
this week is parshas tazria metzorah and we all know the basics "dont speak Lashon hara its a terrible thing to do instead make people happy and love every single jew(or married as the case may be as we get older)" we all know the songs we know the basic mussar shmuess dont speak badly abt people Hashem doesnt like it, no one likes it, you may feel good saying it that insant cuz you feel like there is nothing you'd rather say but the second later when it hits you, your shocked - what- how'd that happen- how'di let myself go there- thats not right....
we all know the post-LH guilt. but something that seems to escape most of our minds is the concept that its more than the big things, its the slight jokes we make at someone els'es expense or pointing out that a little kid is annoying or whatever it may be..sometimes and most of the time its the small things taht we have to watch out for, its the small things that make or break a person. its that one small concept that you forgot to study that ends up making you do not so well on the test(we've all been there)
and sometimes it the small gestures that we do for people that tells them that yoiu really care. I remember in seminary and even in moreshet Mrs. Blau would be very makpid on taking attendance cuz she said that some people go the whole day without anyone saying her name so this way at least people have their name called and even in the slightest way makes them feel special. we never know what our actions do, who they affect. and sometimes we have to go out of our way to makes things right with the people we love and care abouit
we've all gotten into arguments with our parents- some more than others- but still we all have been there some time or another. and there have definately have been times when you knew without a shadow of a doubt that yoiu are right and they are wrong. and i mean sometimes its righteous indignation- you were doing what youi thought-knew- was right and then they want you to do it differently. they want you to do something that you know yoy cannot do. they think you did something that you know with absolute clarity that it did not happen the way they think it did. so then you argue, you yell it out, hopefully not too much yelling you wanna keep those windows intact. then you go to your room, sulk a little maybe, if your like me in a bad mood i blast the music what ever it takes till you calm down.
now what? the furthest thing in your mind is to apologise, you are right it wouldnt be fair for yoiu to go crawling back begging for forgiveness. but that is the way it has to be. you dont have to apologize for having an opnoin youi dont have to apologize for what you didnt do, but yoiu do have to apologise for the yelling. bcz in the end they are yoiur parents and they love you and everythin they do is for you and your benefit they never wanna hurt you. they live their lives so you can live a better one. so yea you may disagree on what is best for you..but remember that they do want the best for you their daughter... apologising may seem so big in the moment but really in the grand scheme of things its two simple words-im sorry- three if you dont like contraction- its such a small gesture that can make the difference btwn peace in the home or WWIII
right now its sefira and we are all working on making oursleves fitting to recieve the torah.we are using these 49 days Hashem gave us to better ourselves so that on Shavuous night we will be able to say "Naaseh V'Nishma" with a full heart and a steady consious knowing that this is right and this is the only path to even conisder. so remember as you are studying and your sister asks a BILLION TIMES if you can do something for her..just keep in mind that college is important yes but what good is a Ba without a future in Olam Haba?
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