I think that just sums it up perfectly.
It is such a hard line. To balance between hope and expectation. I personally am constantly grappling with it.
To go back to shidduchim..because it always comes back to shidduchim...
look forward but never wait..
How many girls do we all know that have put their lives on hold waiting to get married?
How many of our friends don't go on trips, don't make career moves...wont buy themselves jewelry, Wont spring for that nice linen...because they are waiting for when they are married?
I cannot even begin to count how many times people have told me..."wait, you'll do that with your husband."
I want to go backpacking across Europe- wait and do it with your husband
highlighting my hair even- wait till your married (don't want to Gd forbid screw up my chances of getting married with the wrong color streaks)
I book a ticket a few months in advance...but what if you are dating someone then?
We all have that friend who is just sitting, waiting, doing nothing with their lives..whiling away the time till prince charming shows up. I had one such friend who BH got married this past year. I have never been happier for anyone. She was 28..and had done nothing...literally nothing...working here and there as a preschool sub. A lot of TV a lot of the kardashians and say yes to the dress... but nothing to better herself, Her whole life she was waiting to be the doting wife and homemaker. She was waiting for someone to come rescue her from herself. To love her and protect her and take care of her...because she really is fragile and incapable.
Ultimately I think that makes all the difference...between the ones who are single and depressed and the ones who are not. Of course, I cannot ever judge someone else and I myself have clearly had those moments when it all just seems so hopeless. But if you are living your life, doing the things that you love...Yes, we are looking forward to the day when we will have a home of our own...but till then I am not waiting around for some guy to come rescue me from my fate.
I choose to live today and everyday...with hope not expectation; looking forward but never waiting.