Sunday, February 1, 2015

Party Hardy

So I generally like trying new things, and I don't mind checking out a new scene, because honestly, why not? You never know right? So when my roommate suggested going to a singles event in the meat packing district..i figured what the heck? whats the worst that can happen right?

So we went, and despite our efforts to be fashionably late we still managed to be the first ones in. Turns out this event is basically is just a bunch of people socializing at a bar. We all had name tags, and that was as far as the planning went. The music was too loud, the lighting non-existent. This was one of the few times in my life I was actually happy that I date via the shidduch system.

I suck at the whole socializing thing. No matter how much I try to psyche myself up and tell myself that I can do it..and that its not that big of deal..I just cant bring myself to do it. I cannot bring myself to walk up to a stranger and introduce myself. So I ended up just sitting in the corner..and that's how the night about crushing to the ego...

You ever experience anything like this? Do guys hate these things also?


  1. I also suck at the whole socializing thing. Not only because I am terrible at small talk, but because also what if you introduce yourself to someone then find out that it was a bad idea? How to extricate oneself, and yet let the other person not feel rejected? Same problem if they introduce themselves to you.

    I am very, very happy to stick with the shidduch system.

  2. One of the biggest myths (popular falsehoods) about the Jewish dating scene is that men have it better or easier.

    The following categories of men experience great difficulties with the Jewish dating scene: Kohanim, Baalei Teshuvah, Gerim, Sephardim, short, fat, bald, poor, divorced, manual laborers, not studying Torah full-time, those with health problems, and those with no college degree.

    Believe it or not, men who fit into these categories can go for YEARS without even one date.

    Unlike their female counterparts who never stop complaining loudly to anyone who will listen, these men tend to suffer in silence and obscurity.

    Some of these men just abandon dating completely and no longer attempt to get married, because giving up saves lots of: time, money and humiliation.


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