Go Ahead- Laugh

Hey guys I know that it’s been a really long time since I’ve written and I must apologize, Its insane how fast the week passes by and how fast Friday speeds by, you wake up for class and before you know it you’re running to catch the last bus to chaifa, your hair is still wet and is making a very distinct water mark on your sweater that you’re planning to wear on Shabbat cuz you’ve got the shabbos packing thing down to a science and you know that the only way you can fit your linen in your backpack is to wear everything on Friday, use your shell for a pj top (pj sweatshirt optional) and a pair of pants and the spare pair of stocking that are a MUST bcz inevitably the week you don’t bring your stockings develop a huge gash and there is more leg showing than stocking and of course in vihznitz this is not so appropriate so u have to stay in your room the whole time and ask the person you came with to give an excuse to the host and bring you back food.
Anywhooose, this week I am not in that mazav bcz I'm staying in nevey for the Holy Sabbath. I just wanna tell ya’ll a funny story that happened to me and anyone who knows me will immediately how insanely me this story is. So here it is, a couple a weeks ago I went to Moshav Matisyahu for Shabbat . So I never wear shoes on the bus, so I was wearing my Birkenstocks/naot (whatever your fancy) and I took them off. I was sitting in the seat behind the door (“delet achorit”) so you know how there is the half a wall thingy that is in front of the two seats right behind the door? And there is a small opening between the floor and the bottom of the thingy? Yeah well, my shoe fell off the bus through the opening. I only realized once I got to the moshav, we were the last stop and as I'm collecting all my stuff, I start looking for my shoes, I find one and I'm searching for the other and as hard as I look I cannot seem to find it, so I walked to our host’s home without shoes. Yeah, that’s my funniest story of late. Just to keep a smile on your faces, I know its hard being in college and working and stuff, but hey at least I pop up occasionally and tell you about my ditziness. Go ahead have a good laugh, I let.
So this is my lesson, and I’ve been trying to take it to heart. Sometimes people don’t seem to appreciate everything that you do for them, and they only seem to see the bad things, the mistakes and somehow tend to forget all the good things that you have done. I think this happens to all of us at some point or another, or maybe this is just my personal therapy session at ya’ll’s expense. Anywaaaaaaaaaaaay, you start to think that maybe its not worth being nice to this person, that your efforts are better spent on someone who appreciates you and maybe just maybe you’ll give this person a taste of his own medicine, see how they like it. However, this is soooooooo not productive. We always learn that people are divided into two groups, takers and givers. So what do you want to be? It is our job to be nice to everyone and do what we do best without regard to those who don’t appreciate our efforts. We have to do our responsibility and give to those who need; that is our job. Anything else is out of our hands. How someone responds to us is not our business. If a person cannot see the good that you are doing for him, then I pity him. He is going to have an extremely difficult and sad life if cannot appreciate what others do for him. When you appreciate what someone does for you and recognize all t he good that they do for you, you will feel so much more loved and will be all the more happy. I know this is difficult to put in practice, believe you me this is mussar to myself, trying to get myself to apply this to my life. So in the mean time, make an effort to see all the good that others do for ya and if once-in-a-while they slip up and make a mistake it will be so much easier to forgive them. The two of you will enjoy an immensely healthier relationship!