kibud av'vem (nothing too original here)
so this next post is in response to a challenge i got early last week but seeing as i havent been so good abt bloggin im finally getting around to it..so here i go..
this friend of mine is quite the character, full of personality, funk and fun. when she talks to her mother a transformation takes place, i always can tell when she is talking to her mother because her tone of voice changes, she sounds different, her voice takes on the tone of an aidel maidle knaidle and it cracks me up every time cuz its so unexpected and i am thoroughly impressed.
we all know the importance of kibud av v'em. and we know that eisav would change his clothes before serving his father (yitzchak just btw) and somehow the concept of changing clothes every time a parent calls for you doenst seem so realistic or possible at this point.by the time u get changed and dab on some lip gloss..its probably too late to do whatever it is they wanted from you in the first place.
yet we are commanded to treat our parents differently, to have yirah and kavod for them. the mitzva of kibud av'vem is a complex one and one that most of us struggle with, but its unique in that its on first side of the luchot along with the rest of the mitsvot that are bein adam leMakom whilst the rest of the bein adam lechaviro mitzvot are on the other side.
we all know the classic answer because the relationship with our parents is a model for our relationship with Hashem and that our parents are partners with Hashem in our creation..etc etc etc. we see that we have exactly the same commandment to love and fear Hashem, as to love and honor our parents. the mitzva that comes right before kibud av v;eim is shabbat, before we can expect to honor our parents (Father!) we have to spend time together, time that is uniquely ours and no one Else's. shabbat is our opportunity to be with our families to be with our parents and to bond with Hashem in a way that cannot be done on any other day. so we have very strict halachos; we dress differently ad we are supposed to speak differently because we are in the royal palace, in the throne room of the king and we have been privileged to have a private audience with HIs Majesty. we are not going to wear are regular clothes, we don't speak the same way that we speak to our friends this day is special.
if our relationship with our parents is a model for our relationship with G-d then by default the reverse is true. the relationship with G-d is supposed to teach us a thing or two abt how we treat our parents..and i think shabbat is a great role model. we may not have the opportunity or capability to dress differently when we interact with our parents, but speaking in a gentler tone, more refined, less slang maybe, less sarcasm...whatever it is..that can and will have a huge impact.
when u speak up to them..as opposed to an equal or a friend..then u constantly remember that they are your parents and there is a difference and we do need to me more mindful of what we say and what we do while we are in their presence..
this friend of mine is quite the character, full of personality, funk and fun. when she talks to her mother a transformation takes place, i always can tell when she is talking to her mother because her tone of voice changes, she sounds different, her voice takes on the tone of an aidel maidle knaidle and it cracks me up every time cuz its so unexpected and i am thoroughly impressed.
we all know the importance of kibud av v'em. and we know that eisav would change his clothes before serving his father (yitzchak just btw) and somehow the concept of changing clothes every time a parent calls for you doenst seem so realistic or possible at this point.by the time u get changed and dab on some lip gloss..its probably too late to do whatever it is they wanted from you in the first place.
yet we are commanded to treat our parents differently, to have yirah and kavod for them. the mitzva of kibud av'vem is a complex one and one that most of us struggle with, but its unique in that its on first side of the luchot along with the rest of the mitsvot that are bein adam leMakom whilst the rest of the bein adam lechaviro mitzvot are on the other side.
we all know the classic answer because the relationship with our parents is a model for our relationship with Hashem and that our parents are partners with Hashem in our creation..etc etc etc. we see that we have exactly the same commandment to love and fear Hashem, as to love and honor our parents. the mitzva that comes right before kibud av v;eim is shabbat, before we can expect to honor our parents (Father!) we have to spend time together, time that is uniquely ours and no one Else's. shabbat is our opportunity to be with our families to be with our parents and to bond with Hashem in a way that cannot be done on any other day. so we have very strict halachos; we dress differently ad we are supposed to speak differently because we are in the royal palace, in the throne room of the king and we have been privileged to have a private audience with HIs Majesty. we are not going to wear are regular clothes, we don't speak the same way that we speak to our friends this day is special.
if our relationship with our parents is a model for our relationship with G-d then by default the reverse is true. the relationship with G-d is supposed to teach us a thing or two abt how we treat our parents..and i think shabbat is a great role model. we may not have the opportunity or capability to dress differently when we interact with our parents, but speaking in a gentler tone, more refined, less slang maybe, less sarcasm...whatever it is..that can and will have a huge impact.
when u speak up to them..as opposed to an equal or a friend..then u constantly remember that they are your parents and there is a difference and we do need to me more mindful of what we say and what we do while we are in their presence..
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