Romance is about candlelit dinners and flowers and sweet nothings. My idea of love is when someone wants to make your life easier. Taking out the garbage unasked every once in a while, for instance. And saying "I love you" is different than showing it.
Gosh...this is SO true. I took it a lil differently. Words...we can speak and say things but they don't mean anything til you actually do something to show how much you mean it. And love...sometimes you don't realize how strongly you love someone until something happens where you have to give up something precious to you in order to prove how much you love that person. It hurts sometimes...but love is so precious that it is worth it.
I don't usually write about anything Shidduch related. But I saw this today and it really captures how I view shidduchim. People have their theories and opinions about how and why and what. If i get my nose done, go to singles events, make more contacts, anything, then maybe I'll get married sooner. Compromise more. Maybe we need more incentives for shadchanim? My theory. G-d runs the world. He makes Shidduchim. G-d has no crisis. The end.
I love Friday. I love the feeling that Shabbat is coming. Shabbos is a day like no other.. and that means that erev Shabbat is by association just as special. About a year and a half a go...maybe longer...I started buying flowers " lekavod shabbat kodesh!" In seminary, Rabbi Geisler told us something that really stuck with me. He said that he does not buy his wife flowers on Friday. He and his wife go and buy flowers for Shabbat together. Rav Shimshon Pincus, in his sefer on Shabbat, also talks about flowers. He says that he went to the store to buy flowers for Shabbat. He went to the roses. Only the best for Shabbat. Only the best for the Queen. But he couldn't decide how many to get. A dozen. two dozen..there is no value for Shabbat. Maybe he should just buy them all? In the end he bought three roses; one for each of the avot, which in turn correspond to the three meals of Shabbat. The greatness of Shabbat is often ignored, trampled on. R'Pincus explains tha...
Words are just words till there are actions that prove what you say...
ReplyDeleteThat's why I'm not a romantic.
ReplyDeleteRomance is about candlelit dinners and flowers and sweet nothings. My idea of love is when someone wants to make your life easier. Taking out the garbage unasked every once in a while, for instance. And saying "I love you" is different than showing it.
Deletei believe both are important. one without the other is not complete..i think.
ReplyDeleteGosh...this is SO true. I took it a lil differently. Words...we can speak and say things but they don't mean anything til you actually do something to show how much you mean it.
ReplyDeleteAnd love...sometimes you don't realize how strongly you love someone until something happens where you have to give up something precious to you in order to prove how much you love that person. It hurts sometimes...but love is so precious that it is worth it.